YO LADY, YOU’VE CHANGED // The Fear of Losing Yourself

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Oh the fear of “losing yourself”! I have been believing the sad little story that it would be a complete MONSTROSITY if I ever changed, even slightly because then I wouldn’t KNOW WHO I AM anymore.

The fear of turning into someone else, some weirdo & forgetting who I have always been – loyal, patient, consistent, dependable. The fear that if I edited any part of me so I can grow & become the next level me I wouldn’t know myself anymore.

So I have been holding back. Trying to hold on to being the same old me as I grow as a mama, a wife, an entrepreneur, a leader, a trailblazer.

That is what I see inside of myself – a leader forging a new path for others like me who want to love themselves & love their lives so much they can’t help but celebrate them – all the layers & colours of their lives. To document our best lives, our “show real” i.e. the life we WANT to have, to LIVE it, WELCOME it, SHARE it to INSPIRE others with love & support.

Why are we so scared of losing ourselves??

In reality we can’t ever really be lost.

There will ALWAYS be an inner knowing, it might just fall asleep sometimes. Wake it up by asking questions, state loudly you are ready to grow into who you are & want to be right now.

As human type peeps we naturally want & need to grow & change. Our bodies are doing it naturally every day. Our minds do too with all the information we are submerged in every day. Even our environment around us is growing & evolving. It’s completely NATURAL. So why is it so hard for our spirits, our souls, our inner self of our beliefs & values & energetics to grow & evolve without resistance??

Why are we so scared of someone seeing us & saying “whoa dude, you’ve changed” like it’s a bad thing. We should be changing. Who wants to be the EXACT same their entire life?

Not me, that’s for sure.

Seriously, WHO wants to be the same all the way through their life?! The same thoughts & beliefs & tastes & experiences?!

No fucking way man!! I want a life full of growth, change, aliveness, awareness, challenge, inspiration, creation, evolution!!

I want to learn as much as I can about what I want to be more of, see more of, live more of.

I want to upgrade my thoughts & beliefs to ones that gift me a happy, healthy & wealthy life. 

I want to create what is in me to be created & with my magic & with unbelievable speed & skill & value.

I want to live a FULL life.

Ain’t gonna happen without changing, growing & evolving. So why are we so scared of losing ourselves?!?!

You can NEVER lose your sense of self. Who you are. Trust that whatever you go through on your chosen path of growth & upgrades & new beliefs & new practices that it is all for you & perfect.

The fear of not fitting in anymore & out growing those around you is real & it’s so hard. It’s why so many peeps play small in life. They don’t want to throw off the balance or piss anyone else off.

Fuck it.

Throw off the balance. Inspire others to come along for the ride.

Challenge the status quo.

Lose yourself IN THE MOMENT to find your upgraded self on the other side.

Show others what stepping up & how epically AMAZING living a soul aligned life is.

Be the change you want to see.

Believe any dream you see for yourself is totally achievable. Because it is. Nothing is unrealistic or too hard or not in this lifetime.

Stop worrying about losing yourself!


What you focus on becomes your reality.

Find what it is you want for your life. Find what energetics you want oozing out of you. Look at what you chose to believe. What do you want your life to look & feel like??

It’s all a choice, your dream life. So pick it. Claim it.

Lose yourself in your life – grow into the person you want to be, continuously until your time on this planet is up.

So before your time is up in your human body… Will you join me??

Join me in showing up every day to grow into the person you dream to be, to get what you want & give what you were born to give?

Let’s celebrate us #celebrateyou

Let’s show up & take action to grow & evolve so we can celebrate our beautiful, full & rich lives.

Let’s do it for those who have already passed that wish they had.

Let’s do it for those who are here & facing inconceivable challenges when trying to grow into the amazing, next level, epic peeps they dream to be.

Most importantly, let’s do it for us. Let’s shine & grow & shine & grow to be our best versions possible. 

If we don’t evolve into the ridiculously amazing humans we were born to become we are robbing ourselves of a FULL life. We are also robbing others around us who are supposed to receive what our next level us are here to do & share.

We are all connected. When you rise, I rise. When you grow, I grow. And vice versa.

We only get one life in this body we are here in now. No trial run, no second go’s, THIS IS IT. So how do you want your body, your mind, your SOUL to feel, to look, to function??

When you look deep inside your soul, what is in there just scratching to get out? And what if everyone was looking at you waiting to see what you have with an open heart & open mind, what would you do/create/be/show/say?

If you had
One shot
Or one opportunity
To seize everything you ever wanted
In one moment
Would you capture
Or just let it slip?

You better lose yourself in the music, the moment
You own it, you better never let it go
You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime…

{ LYRICS Eminem – Lose Yourself }


So… Are you with me? Are you willing to trust to lose yourself to GROW INTO YO REAL SELF, my rad as fuck mofo?

With gratitude,

x Paula x

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